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你一笑 · 我哭了

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這幾個月來,我的論文就擱在一旁只因很多問題想不通。後來鼓起勇氣向朋友求教。今早由老遠趕來慈雲山教堂為在九時彌撒後能見那朋友,向她請教。彌撒進行期間我不绝左顧右盼,就是不見她。當時我實在後悔昨天没给她一個電話確認今日會面。

我唯有祈禱希望奇迹會出現。彌撒將近尾聲,不知她從人羣中那裡鑽出來,好一塊熟悉的臉!她還展示和靄可親的笑容,沒想到奇迹如此展現我眼前。她可親的一笑,我不由得落淚了。原来我的信德如此薄弱,心中不禁慚愧,但同時又開心因為我的論文有救了。

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Special moment sharing with special hearts

  
After attending the 2015 APAC (Asia-Pacific Autism Conference in Brisbane), I went to Canberra to visit my daughter.  The conference experience is mixed because the more I learnt about intervention strategies to manage the diverse needs of people with autism spectrum disorders in their early adulthood and the more challenges I became aware of in developing these areas in my home country.   My mind is stuffed with cutting edge knowledge.   I feel kind of pressure and confused.

It is until my daughter brought me to the disability home for dinner last night had I felt relieved and anchored.   The simple presence, love and biblical reading of eight adults including my daughter and me gave me inner joy and peace.  When these disabled people said prayer for the group, I was touched and inspired.  

Regardless of what great stuff I got from the APAC, the most important and immediate thing to do is to serve with love with sensitivity and compassion.  It’s a blurred line between the one who serves and the one who is served.  Like making friends with the disabled, I feel the presence of joy and contentment among us.  These special moments sharing with the special friends made my day.

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2015 大學生夏令營後感

  囬想那八天夏令夏生活,可謂刻骨銘心。首兩天,由於大部份節目由我負責主持,所以心裏總带幾分壓力,擔心廿多位大學生和幾位中學生不覺得活動內容豐富,甚至感到浪費了時間。怎料學生們都非常認真和投入,加上他們大多抱着學習溝通和交朋友的期望,最终每個節目鄀都能一環接一環地加深發現自己兼認識對方,因而大家都很投入,我可謂鬆一口氣。

第三、四天,五十多個小學和初中生入謍,由先前的大學及高中生負責照顧和帶領遊戲,本來我所以扮演「後援」的角飾,那知道他們心中有㸃抗拒這種安排!幸虧第四天下午小學和初中孩子離營後,我們有機㑹和大學生核心小組溝通才發現他們心中的期望與落差。原来大學生們期望香港的培訓員集中培育和鞏固他們的核心小組,且有待他們孕育出一種歸屬感和團體力量,方才分配照顧其他較年幼的小學和初中生。

第五、六天我們又把培育焦㸃放回核心成員身上。説實話,我不太理解為何大部分大學生核心成員都顯得有㸃自我中心,我心感到絲絲傷悲。原來過去三年夏令營曽積累了不少誤解與矛盾因而産生了一些溝通問題。第六天早上,我們硬抽出一小時半來面對和討論,卒之清淅了方向,盼望來年有所改進。由於第六天黃昏我們要離開營地,所以無法陪同大學生們作五小時長的山中行活動。其實當天午飯後送學生們坐包車上山時,我心既忐忑又不捨。但我接受培育青年人建立義工團隊精神誠非易事。

下年我仍會努力参與山西培育青年的工作,我盼望下年有所改善,特别是缺水冲凉這問题的確有㸃困擾。當我們六位香港培育團在晚上入住山西機塲附近的旅館時,第一時間就趕去洗澡,嘩!真是快樂極了!

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Social Quota

  
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“Social quota” refers to the amount of energy one affords in dealing with social interaction.  To what extent is social interaction enjoyable? Actually it varies with your personality characteristics, mood and settings.  For individuals with Aspergers or high functioning autism, interaction with people can drain their energy dramatically especially in topics not exactly of their genuine interests.  It is, therefore, good to be aware of the variations of “social quota” of oneself before stretching too thin.  For example, I was going out for a movie last night with 10 people.  We had dinner and then movie.  I found staying over for a chat after the movie a bit over my “social quota”.  In order to maintain my emotion balance, I preferred going home to staying over after the movie.  Self understanding and emotion wellbeing matters.